● becomes a friend with the child first
In your heart your child may grow forever not quite, but a lot of children are in 15 years old or earlier when be willing to regard oneself as adult will consider, at this moment the parent can use adult talk means and child completely to discuss an issue, is complete no longer " the parent " style. Regard the child as friend, think to chat with you when him not " the menace that is punished " when, he just can not talk without place.
● rears sensible and reasonable child
The Chinese always is " obedient " regard as the advantage of a child. But I hope my child does not do obedient child only, I want them to become reasonable child. I am right " custom " law has 4: (1) decide good rule, but it is clear to tell the truth of custom tell the truth of custom above all, not be to be subject to blindly; (2) inside custom the child has complete freedom; (3) violated custom child to will be punished foregonely; (4) rule has been jumped over lesser, ability achieves inspired effect.
● rears the child of success study
In the learning environment that this should try today, we do not care very hard to lesson achievement. But, the child is in the pressure in this environment is very great, we should make allowances for them as far as possible. Do not hope to the child too tall, more the ideal that does not want oneself to did not come true must come true on child body. Too tall, unreasonable expectation can give the child too great pressure only, and I am sorry Babylon feeling of parents. Do not see result too heavy, it is important to hit good foundation and true understanding to compare result far.
Let your expectation rationalize as far as possible. If see unreasonable or impossible target, the child may abandon at all. Turn oneself to the child's requirement as far as possible the proposal of didymous child. Do not compare the child with others as far as possible.
Encourage the child to learn to learn, it is for the mark not merely. Encourage him child to start work, is not it is good to want exam result only OK, want to encourage him to use has learned knowledge immediately, letting him know to learn these intellectual opposite is useful alive, is not to take an examination of high component scholarship. The most important is to should inspire the child to be in charge of actively to his study.
● rears the child of own independence
Be in China, parents is particularly deep to the child's care, child of for fear that suffers a bit harm. They are so right the child more it is protection, do not put underhand method. Brought about the child to have very big dependence so. Also some of parents can help the child design life program, but the ability that this can make a lot of people ignored his real interest and choice normally.
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