The conduct that often can observe oneself in the parents in domestic education is right the effect effect of children, but ignore the daily language effect to the child easily however.

The formation of the individual character of the child in growing is to be in greatly with parents in interacting, finish. The parents in the memory in dot always is correct, nature also is mixed to his manner with parents the evaluation will know his.

In the child's memory, the adult is marvelous, they are omniscient, omnipotent. Accordingly, the child always admits termlessly and accept an adult to be evaluated to theirs, and cannot analyse the validity that judges these evaluations. And the parents in daily life is right the child's language, no matter whether be intended, often deliver the child a kind of evaluation about him.

A lot of words that parents speaks accidentally, what can enter the child is subconscious store in subconscious in the center, and the behavior that in the child's growth the process counteracts grown life to control them ceaselessly, these behavior often make doer itself scratch one's head over.

If can make the child ceaseless in daily life experience,communicate the positive assessment that come out from inside parental language, criterion the child is compared can nurturance a kind of active individual character, instead criterion parents can be in a child's inactive individual character is developed for long in optional language. In this alleged family education " kind melon gets melon, kind the beans gets a beans " , just be parents are not cared about daily the language is planted slowly below. Each days, your words and deeds is affecting the child, this fosters their inning just about.

Look the following the our not new word that speaks from inside parental mouth:

How don't you have prospect so! How don't you have prospect so!!

"Stupid dead you! Thing of such a little bit is done bad. Thing of such a little bit is done bad..

"Are you deaf? Hear? Hear??

"Hey, you how so lazy! You how so lazy!!

You follow your father sex of a heart! ...

These words make the child unhappy at that time not only, and in them subconscious in leave very deep mark. Apparent right now the parent gave an issue on choice communication language. You may be the method that acquired child of this kind of education from inside childhood life. Although know oneself are very big to parental resentment at that time, but because lack other measure, the tragedy that is forced to let oneself repeats. Appear when the child what need when behavior deviation temporarily is to remind the help with reason, parents should choose a kind of neutral, the language that does not bring an opinion will be communicated with the child.

You perhaps think such ability are achieved " beat again beat noisy drum " the effect. Hope child realises his defect in the quarrelling sound, correct undesirable action, and in fact, the child can be behaved only more flooey. If debasing the child, asperse like the seed fall in child heart, such circumstance is more, bury must be jumped over deep, make the standard that their ego evaluates gradually. After the child is used to this kind censuring, can take such standard to be him absolve in the heart. Then the child's behavior not because of parents censure and improve somewhat, make oneself become what be cursed by parents instead the sort of person.
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