Wounds one: should not have shot hand - physical pain never hurt a child self-esteem 5-year-old showed great time playing rong randomness, the teacher talked about the correct fingering, hand-and asked in her mind did not leave the slightest blot, as if never learned to like. Look in the eyes of her mother, anxious in mind, over and over again to remind himself plus model can be put on a pair of Xuanxuan uncooperative attitude, writhing in the stool, while water, while on the toilet, no two minutes and clamored to tired to take a break. Error criticism: Inner rage finally broke through the patient's bottom line, my mother waving a slap in the face of the past, rong the back of the hand suddenly to red - the penalty by force of persuasion and education to upgrade. Scars: Basically, punishment does not solve any problem by force can only intensify the contradiction between the two sides, so that the original is likely to continue to learn the middle of stranded; fist in the parents, the child's self-esteem has suffered a complete defeat, easy to form Poguanposhuai the psychological, and even subsequently invulnerability to all the criticism, it is really a lose-lose. Another direct consequence of it is: in what way you treat a child, the child will be treated the same way you and the people around him - an imitation of violence is easy. Bad example of parents, children and children in a separate conflict in the face of their own, the minds of the first reaction is "pre-emptive." Well-education: Upgrade to criticize "war", that is parents not. Children have not formed self-evaluation system, they are by adults, especially parents, to look at their own evaluation. Moreover, the fragile heart would particularly like to be sure their parents, this can give children self-confidence, but also make them happy to accept criticism. Art education is being strengthened, rather than negative reinforcement. Strengthen their weaknesses or rejecting a child, the child bit by bit as the achievements and good sign to see in the eyes, keep in mind, talk about it to strengthen its good side, give the necessary instructions, let the children see their potential to enhance self-confidence. So, my mother is better this time using the "praise-style criticism" approach, bit by bit to find the child's strengths, after the first batch of praise: "Your left hand than the right hand of the beautiful model, than the two-finger left hand three fingers look good, which over the strength of feeling pretty good grasp ", and then mention the request:" Can the right hand as his left hand like a beautiful, two-finger hook can back that speed would be better if we slow down a bit., we have to try, I think rong certain no problem! "Children need praise in comparison and found a real gap between themselves, if the parents affirmed that the child's performance, she will have confidence in his nine errors corrected; the contrary, the parents of a child wrong way to rough, she would likely have no mood to maintain their nine advantages. Scar II: screaming - out of control emotions is difficult to give children proper guidance Tao Tao confused turned upside down every day at home: toys littered the ground, brushes, drawing paper spread over the table and bed are piled all of his gadgets, his favorite book is also almost certain to want to see do not know where the time. Reminded many times still did not make any change Tao Tao. Error criticism: The house is a mess anger ignited the hearts of his mother: "How many times have told you, from where something comes to an end also brought back into where to go. You are not a long memory, you do not close, throw them at me the whole off! "said the child pretend to throw the most beloved toy, and then a violent storm like shouting. Scars: The higher the more your voice is not to produce immediate results, and results are often inversely proportional to the tone; and shouting to the dignity of the child did not feel the presence, but also your accomplishment roar without a trace. If adult children are angry, criticizing likely to upgrade to crying and abuse, education, the effect of offset is zero. And the child will soon know, Mom lips say "throw away" but the hands are not really "throw away", which is also the loss of her mother's credibility. Well-education: Calmly criticized the child, helps to maintain good parent-child relationship, but also to achieve the purpose of criticism. Therefore, it is best to control self temper, appease yourself. Things to pack their own children is a difficult habit, my mother should Tao Tao patient. First and kids pick up, this can be a good thing to encourage it. Recognition of children inspired by her mother, will gradually learn to organize their own separate articles. Wounds three: chatter - led to criticism of excessive antagonistic Wen-Wen has a large box of various shapes of beads, stringing necklaces were very beautiful; but when she saw several other kids took the game to pieces as a transparent "glowing pearl", the dreams of crying, they do not give She took one home improvement "glowing pearl," a small bottle thrown on the ground ... ... Error criticism: Wen Wen's move to get humiliated her mother: "How many times have told you, how do you not understand? Can not always look at other people's stuff is good, the toys your family there? Throw their stuff side does not play, the sight of other people like to get something just like baby, really good for nothing ... ... so next time I will not give you to buy any toys! " Scars: This bit long-winded, the lack of fresh criticism, can not give the brain to stimulate the obvious, that the more the child the more would these words as ear. And, do not look small children, ability to comprehend the language that is not bad, "good for nothing", "cravings" of a character class does not respect the words of the child can easily lead to resentment in their hearts, out with or dark with and against you, who The problems are likely to increase. Well-education: Something beautiful and fresh for a child is a temptation to resist the temptation is not easy to do. Therefore, parents may wish to tell the children: she liked the things he did nothing wrong, but we can not keep things to others, not to rob or destroyed. Then make it clear to the child: the world's good things are infinite in number, we can not all have; if particularly want, you have to fight for their own efforts, such as if the other party is willing to use your own beads and beautiful children change.

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